Relationship Check-In

Weekly practice

Make one conversation clearer and more consensual before assumptions harden into distance.

Time: 10–20 minutes
Use it when: Trust feels thin, expectations are accumulating, or you want to reconnect without forcing disclosure.
Often supports: Steward and Architect

The practice

Ask whether now is a workable time for a short check-in and accept no.
Each person names one observation and one feeling or need without diagnosing the other.
Ask whether listening, clarification, or ideas would be most helpful.
End with one clear next step, a pause, or an agreement to revisit.

Adapt it

Use a message to ask for a later conversation. Set a five-minute limit. Passing on any question remains allowed.

Stop if

Either person feels unsafe, pressured, overwhelmed, or unable to leave. This is not therapy, mediation, or crisis support; seek appropriate help when needed.